Most wait – either until they’ve been on a few dates, until they’re officially an item, or until the subject comes up naturally (for example, they have to use their inhaler in front of their new partner).You might delay telling a new partner because asthma is a normal part of your life and you don’t want to make a big fuss about it.And even if you’ve been with someone for a while, you may still feel under pressure and worry that you won’t be able to enjoy yourself fully because of your asthma."When I get asthma symptoms my partner won't be intimate until he's satisfied I'm settled.Hardly surprising as the first time we had sex I had an asthma attack and ended up in hospital!
Our page about sex as a trigger has lots of tips to help you physically enjoy your sex life.The best way to avoid having to deal with symptoms on a date or a romantic evening is to make sure your asthma’s as well managed as possible.Putting just a few simple steps in place means you’re far less likely to have symptoms or need to use your reliever inhaler (usually blue) while you’re out, so you can relax and enjoy your date, feeling confident that asthma won’t affect you.If they are concerned, you can reassure them – you could direct them to this website for more information. You can tell them how asthma does – or doesn’t – affect your life, and say that you know how to manage your symptoms and what to do if they get worse.Although it’s unlikely, there is the possibility that your new partner or the person you’re dating may not know what to do or say when you tell them you have asthma.What’s important is that you don’t try to cope without your inhaler if you notice symptoms.Not using your inhaler means symptoms may get worse, which you may find more embarrassing – or may mean you have to cut the date short and go home early.You may simply not think about bringing it up until you need to.On the other hand, you may feel very worried about telling a new partner you have asthma, in case they are put off by it. Usually my date is aware because I may need to use my reliever inhaler at some point when I'm with them." - When you tell your new partner or someone you’re dating that you have asthma, just keep it simple and matter-of-fact.Simply saying you might need to use your reliever inhaler or you may need to change to a different position can really take the pressure off.Even if you’ve been seeing your partner for a while, it’s good to talk frankly about how asthma sometimes affects you during sex if you’ve never mentioned it before.